Not gonna lie, I’ve struggled lately. With a lot of things. I feel like there are so many people I know right now that are having miscarriages. People struggling to get pregnant. People that have climbed the miscarriage and infertility wall only to be met with the wall of having a child born with special needs. Or something worse (this is just worse in my opinion, may not be in someone else’s), experiencing the death of a child.
Justin and I have talked about when the best time to have baby #2 is, but to be honest, I’m scared to death. I feel like every time I turn around, I’m hearing about another situation as listed above. I’m scared that because we were so incredibly blessed with number 1 that we could never be lucky enough to be blessed with two healthy pregnancies and babies. But even if I put those fears aside, I struggle with what to say to friends when something like this happens to them. What do you say to a friend who has had multiple miscarriages when they miscarry again? What do you say when your family member struggles with infertility? What is the best way to respond to this? I feel like I’ve used the “I’m so sorry. God has a plan” bit over and over. I imagine it gets old after a while.
As I was at my desk working, I was listening to my Pandora station (which happens to be set to my all time FAVORITE band, Casting Crowns). Then the Tenth Avenue North song “By Your Side” pooped up and I realized….THIS is what I should be telling people. I should just refer them to this song. This song isn’t new, in fact, it’s several years old. I’ve heard it numerous times before. But I guess it just registered that it could apply to any of the above situations. Above all, it’s important for people that have experienced such losses to know that God is there. He’s holding their hand. And He NEVER leaves.